10 Steps to Conflict Resolution: fight in such a way to strengthen your marriage!

Every couple experiences disagreements; it’s how the disagreements are handled that determines the quality and happiness of your relationship.

Watch as marriage mentors Andy and Katy Gillis share the 10 Steps to Conflict Resolution that anyone can use as a model to fight in such a way that it STRENGTHENS the relationship, instead of weakening it:

Get the accompanying Couple Worksheet “10 Steps to Conflict Resolution” – yet another great tool to strengthen your relationship!

The 10 Steps to Conflict Resolution:

1. Set a time and place for discussion.
Time to focus on one another, and the issue at hand, without interruption.

2. Define the problem.
Be as open, honest, and specific as possible.
Don’t bring any hurts, scars, or emotional baggage into the conversation.

3. List the ways you each contribute to the problem.
Keep short accounts, no finger-pointing. Give grace.

4. List past attempts to resolve the issue that were not successful.
Don’t use finger-pointing phrases such as “you always” and “you never.”

5. Brainstorm.
What are some new solutions to try?

6. Discuss and evaluate the possible solutions.
Remember that the goal is to resolve the problem so you both win.

7. Agree on one solution to try.
Be as specific as possible.

8. Agree how you will each work toward the solution.
Stay focused on the issue; don’t go off on tangents.

9. Set up another meeting to review and discuss the progress.
Ask: What worked? What didn’t work? What needs to be changed?

10. Praise your partner for their contribution to the progress.
Encourage, uplift, and support your spouse.

We hope you find these ideas helpful as you strengthen your relationship with your partner!

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*Andy and Katy Gillis are the hosts of the Real Marriage LIVE show Sundays at 9 pm, EST.  Visit their Facebook page to tune in and gain fresh strategies to make your relationship even better!

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Assertiveness and Active Listening: How to Ask for What You Want in Your Marriage.

Great communication creates a healthy, happy marriage.

Two communication skills we can become even better, at are:

  1. Assertiveness, and
  2. Active listening.

Assertiveness is asking for what you want and the ability to express your feelings.

Active listening is letting your spouse know that you understand them…not only what they are saying, but how they are feeling.

The couples who get this right enjoy a much happier marriage!

Watch as Andy and Katy Gillis take their couples through the steps to develop and deepen their Assertiveness and Active Listening skills in this marriage enrichment video:

Bottom line is: when each person knows that they can share their request and feelings without fear of judgment or criticism, and that their spouse listens and understands how they feel, intimacy is increased.

Assertiveness and Active Listening skills will help you become a Power Couple! 

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*Andy and Katy host the Real Marriage Facebook LIVE show, every Sunday night.  Visit their Facebook Page to tune in or watch their latest show!

Strengths and Growth Areas in Your Marriage

“Strengths develop by working through issues.”

Being married for 11 years now, we know that’s right!

Do you feel that you and your spouse:
– Share feelings and understand each other?
– Appreciate each other’s personality and habits?
– Feel good about sexual intimacy and affection?
– Agree on how to share decision-making and responsibilities?

Even if a relationship is good, it can always get better, and last week’s show provided an excellent opportunity for growth!

Watch as we dive into 9 key couple areas and show you how to discover which ones are strengths, and which ones are growth areas in your own relationship:

No matter where you are in your relationship – if you’re dating, engaged, newlywed, married a while, or empty-nesters – you can use this tool to strengthen your relationship and enjoy deeper intimacy with your spouse.

The benefit from knowing your unique strength and growth areas is awareness.  If you know how your spouse feels about each area, and you define how you feel about that same area, you are able to come together and have a conversation about the differences.

Once you can discuss it, you can put a plan of action together for how you will help make the growth area a strength in your marriage.

One important point to consider is that most couples will have different answers, and different is not bad – it’s just different.

The goal is to become aware of how you both feel, communicate about it, and then work to grow into an even better team.

Snag the tool here: Strength and Growth Areas Worksheet 

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