10 Steps to Conflict Resolution: fight in such a way to strengthen your marriage!

Every couple experiences disagreements; it’s how the disagreements are handled that determines the quality and happiness of your relationship.

Watch as marriage mentors Andy and Katy Gillis share the 10 Steps to Conflict Resolution that anyone can use as a model to fight in such a way that it STRENGTHENS the relationship, instead of weakening it:

Get the accompanying Couple Worksheet “10 Steps to Conflict Resolution” – yet another great tool to strengthen your relationship!

The 10 Steps to Conflict Resolution:

1. Set a time and place for discussion.
Time to focus on one another, and the issue at hand, without interruption.

2. Define the problem.
Be as open, honest, and specific as possible.
Don’t bring any hurts, scars, or emotional baggage into the conversation.

3. List the ways you each contribute to the problem.
Keep short accounts, no finger-pointing. Give grace.

4. List past attempts to resolve the issue that were not successful.
Don’t use finger-pointing phrases such as “you always” and “you never.”

5. Brainstorm.
What are some new solutions to try?

6. Discuss and evaluate the possible solutions.
Remember that the goal is to resolve the problem so you both win.

7. Agree on one solution to try.
Be as specific as possible.

8. Agree how you will each work toward the solution.
Stay focused on the issue; don’t go off on tangents.

9. Set up another meeting to review and discuss the progress.
Ask: What worked? What didn’t work? What needs to be changed?

10. Praise your partner for their contribution to the progress.
Encourage, uplift, and support your spouse.

We hope you find these ideas helpful as you strengthen your relationship with your partner!

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*Andy and Katy Gillis are the hosts of the Real Marriage LIVE show Sundays at 9 pm, EST.  Visit their Facebook page to tune in and gain fresh strategies to make your relationship even better!

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Conflict Resolution: learn how you and your spouse tend to deal with conflict.

Every couple experiences conflict, and – let’s face it – every couple has problems!

The question is: How do you tend to view, treat, and communicate with your spouse when you’re tackling tough problems?

And, how does your spouse tend to deal?

Knowing the answers to these questions will help you work as a team when tackling issues, instead of occasional enemies!

Watch as Andy and Katy Gillis take you through an exercise that will help you identify how each of you handles conflict so you can better work together and you both can win:

Of course!) we’ve got an amazing couple worksheet for you, that you can download here: Conflict Resolution Worksheet

We’ve found that every couple has a unique dynamic, and no one is “naturally good” at resolving conflict, because conflict resolution is a skill.

Thankfully, it’s a skill we can all learn and get even better at 🙂

Resolving conflict leads to growth, positive change, and even deeper intimacy in your relationship…and so we’re talking about it on the show this week!

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I feel like I’m the only one trying to make our marriage work

“I feel like I’m the only one trying to make our marriage work.”

This is a comment we receive quite often, and the solution is not “one size fits all,” because each marriage is the unique partnership between two people. It’s tough when you feel like your spouse is not “pulling their weight” or even willing to work on your marriage at all.

However, we’ve found that even when there are great challenges in the relationship, the other person usually DOES want to make things better, regardless of whether they say so or act like it.

Most of the time they don’t know how to move forward, or may not feel comfortable talking about the subject with their partner because of the tension it brings (why start a conversation when you think it might end badly?)

No matter how good we are, we can always get better.

How you approach your partner, how you treat them, and the expectations you hold them to all play a part in how they will respond to your request to “work on the marriage” along with you.

Tune into the Real Marriage show this Sunday at 9 pm EST for “Marriage Expectations”

Learn how to become aware, and then release one another, of any unmet expectations that may be keeping you from growing together.

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“Unmet expectations” can be a huge barrier to intimacy in your marriage.