10 Ways to Love Your Spouse

We really like the 10 ways to show real love to your spouse:

  1. Listen without interrupting (Proverbs 18).
  2. Speak without accusing (James 1:19).
  3. Give without holding back (Proverbs 21:26).
  4. Pray without ceasing (Colossians 1:9).
  5. Answer without arguing (Proverbs 17:1).
  6. Share without pretending (Ephesians 4:15).
  7. Enjoy without complaining (Philippians 2:14).
  8. Trust without wavering (Corinthians 13:7).
  9. Forgive without punishing (Colossians 3:13).
  10. Promise without forgetting (Proverbs 13:12).

And here’s a handy reminder image you can save or share:

10 ways to love

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Conflict Resolution: learn how you and your spouse tend to deal with conflict.

Every couple experiences conflict, and – let’s face it – every couple has problems!

The question is: How do you tend to view, treat, and communicate with your spouse when you’re tackling tough problems?

And, how does your spouse tend to deal?

Knowing the answers to these questions will help you work as a team when tackling issues, instead of occasional enemies!

Watch as Andy and Katy Gillis take you through an exercise that will help you identify how each of you handles conflict so you can better work together and you both can win:

Of course!) we’ve got an amazing couple worksheet for you, that you can download here: Conflict Resolution Worksheet

We’ve found that every couple has a unique dynamic, and no one is “naturally good” at resolving conflict, because conflict resolution is a skill.

Thankfully, it’s a skill we can all learn and get even better at ūüôā

Resolving conflict leads to growth, positive change, and even deeper intimacy in your relationship…and so we’re talking about it on the show this week!

Visit our Facebook Page this Sunday night @9 PM EST for the LIVE Real Marriage show.

Be sure to subscribe to our email list to receive all of our new couple worksheets to add to your marriage toolkit.

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Strengths and Growth Areas in Your Marriage

“Strengths develop by working through issues.”

Being married for 11 years now, we know that’s right!

Do you feel that you and your spouse:
– Share feelings and understand each other?
– Appreciate each other’s personality and habits?
– Feel good about sexual intimacy and affection?
– Agree on how to share decision-making and responsibilities?

Even if a relationship is good, it can always get better, and last week’s show provided an excellent opportunity for growth!

Watch as we dive into 9 key couple areas and show you how to discover which ones are strengths, and which ones are growth areas in your own relationship:

No matter where you are in your relationship – if you’re dating, engaged, newlywed, married a while, or empty-nesters – you can use this tool to strengthen your relationship and enjoy deeper intimacy with your spouse.

The benefit from knowing your unique strength and growth areas is awareness.  If you know how your spouse feels about each area, and you define how you feel about that same area, you are able to come together and have a conversation about the differences.

Once you can discuss it, you can put a plan of action together for how you will help make the growth area a strength in your marriage.

One important point to consider is that most couples will have different answers, and different is not bad – it’s just different.

The goal is to become aware of how you both feel, communicate about it, and then work to grow into an even better team.

Snag the tool here: Strength and Growth Areas Worksheet 

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Watch the live show: Andy and Katy Gillis host the Real Marriage FB LIVE Show every Sunday night at 9 pm EST.  Visit their Facebook page to tune in and to watch their latest shows.

I feel like I’m the only one trying to make our marriage work

“I feel like I’m the only one trying to make our marriage work.”

This is a comment we receive quite often, and the solution is not “one size fits all,” because each marriage is the unique partnership between two people. It’s tough when you feel like your spouse is not “pulling their weight” or even willing to work on your marriage at all.

However, we’ve found that even when there are great challenges in the relationship, the other person usually DOES want to make things better, regardless of whether they say so or act like it.

Most of the time they don’t know how to move forward, or may not feel comfortable talking about the subject with their partner because of the tension it brings (why start a conversation when you think it might end badly?)

No matter how good we are, we can always get better.

How you approach your partner, how you treat them, and the expectations you hold them to all play a part in how they will respond to your request to “work on the marriage” along with you.

Tune into the Real Marriage show this Sunday at 9 pm EST for “Marriage Expectations”

Learn how to become aware, and then release one another, of any unmet expectations that may be keeping you from growing together.

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“Unmet expectations” can be a huge¬†barrier to intimacy in¬†your marriage.