Finances: how to get on the same page with your money.

Marriage is a great opportunity to acheive your goals and enjoy your life with your partner.  A true power couple are good stewards of their money.

But we’ve found that money can be a tension point in relationships.  Some couples say that money is the only topic they ever really argue over.

Watch this video where Andy and Katy Gillis share how to get on the same page with your money as a couple:

How to get on the same page with your money:

Step 1: Write your goals down.  

Share your personal, couple, and family goals with your spouse.  Ask your spouse what their goals are.  Just because you got married, had kids, and started a family doesn’t mean you can’t achieve your goals and dreams.  Marriage is a unique opportunity to acheive great things with your mate; both together in your shared goals, and with their encouragement and support in each other’s personal goals.

Step 2: Create a budget.  

Money in, money out, and margin.  Become aware of where your money needs to go, could go, and should go.  Some of the money you’re earning can go towards your shared and personal goals.  Make sure your spending habits are taking you towards your goals, not in the opposite direction!  Spend some time brainstorming together.  What improvements could be made to your budget / spending habits?  And, if you need to earn more money to achieve your goals, brainstorm how you can do that.

View your life together as a wonderful opportunity to achieve your goals and create a purpose-driven life together you both can enjoy!

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10 Steps to Conflict Resolution: fight in such a way to strengthen your marriage!

Every couple experiences disagreements; it’s how the disagreements are handled that determines the quality and happiness of your relationship.

Watch as marriage mentors Andy and Katy Gillis share the 10 Steps to Conflict Resolution that anyone can use as a model to fight in such a way that it STRENGTHENS the relationship, instead of weakening it:

Get the accompanying Couple Worksheet “10 Steps to Conflict Resolution” – yet another great tool to strengthen your relationship!

The 10 Steps to Conflict Resolution:

1. Set a time and place for discussion.
Time to focus on one another, and the issue at hand, without interruption.

2. Define the problem.
Be as open, honest, and specific as possible.
Don’t bring any hurts, scars, or emotional baggage into the conversation.

3. List the ways you each contribute to the problem.
Keep short accounts, no finger-pointing. Give grace.

4. List past attempts to resolve the issue that were not successful.
Don’t use finger-pointing phrases such as “you always” and “you never.”

5. Brainstorm.
What are some new solutions to try?

6. Discuss and evaluate the possible solutions.
Remember that the goal is to resolve the problem so you both win.

7. Agree on one solution to try.
Be as specific as possible.

8. Agree how you will each work toward the solution.
Stay focused on the issue; don’t go off on tangents.

9. Set up another meeting to review and discuss the progress.
Ask: What worked? What didn’t work? What needs to be changed?

10. Praise your partner for their contribution to the progress.
Encourage, uplift, and support your spouse.

We hope you find these ideas helpful as you strengthen your relationship with your partner!

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Conflict Resolution: learn how you and your spouse tend to deal with conflict.

Every couple experiences conflict, and – let’s face it – every couple has problems!

The question is: How do you tend to view, treat, and communicate with your spouse when you’re tackling tough problems?

And, how does your spouse tend to deal?

Knowing the answers to these questions will help you work as a team when tackling issues, instead of occasional enemies!

Watch as Andy and Katy Gillis take you through an exercise that will help you identify how each of you handles conflict so you can better work together and you both can win:

Of course!) we’ve got an amazing couple worksheet for you, that you can download here: Conflict Resolution Worksheet

We’ve found that every couple has a unique dynamic, and no one is “naturally good” at resolving conflict, because conflict resolution is a skill.

Thankfully, it’s a skill we can all learn and get even better at 🙂

Resolving conflict leads to growth, positive change, and even deeper intimacy in your relationship…and so we’re talking about it on the show this week!

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Assertiveness and Active Listening: How to Ask for What You Want in Your Marriage.

Great communication creates a healthy, happy marriage.

Two communication skills we can become even better, at are:

  1. Assertiveness, and
  2. Active listening.

Assertiveness is asking for what you want and the ability to express your feelings.

Active listening is letting your spouse know that you understand them…not only what they are saying, but how they are feeling.

The couples who get this right enjoy a much happier marriage!

Watch as Andy and Katy Gillis take their couples through the steps to develop and deepen their Assertiveness and Active Listening skills in this marriage enrichment video:

Bottom line is: when each person knows that they can share their request and feelings without fear of judgment or criticism, and that their spouse listens and understands how they feel, intimacy is increased.

Assertiveness and Active Listening skills will help you become a Power Couple! 

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