10 Ways to Love Your Spouse

We really like the 10 ways to show real love to your spouse:

  1. Listen without interrupting (Proverbs 18).
  2. Speak without accusing (James 1:19).
  3. Give without holding back (Proverbs 21:26).
  4. Pray without ceasing (Colossians 1:9).
  5. Answer without arguing (Proverbs 17:1).
  6. Share without pretending (Ephesians 4:15).
  7. Enjoy without complaining (Philippians 2:14).
  8. Trust without wavering (Corinthians 13:7).
  9. Forgive without punishing (Colossians 3:13).
  10. Promise without forgetting (Proverbs 13:12).

And here’s a handy reminder image you can save or share:

10 ways to love

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10 Steps to Conflict Resolution: fight in such a way to strengthen your marriage!

Every couple experiences disagreements; it’s how the disagreements are handled that determines the quality and happiness of your relationship.

Watch as marriage mentors Andy and Katy Gillis share the 10 Steps to Conflict Resolution that anyone can use as a model to fight in such a way that it STRENGTHENS the relationship, instead of weakening it:

Get the accompanying Couple Worksheet “10 Steps to Conflict Resolution” – yet another great tool to strengthen your relationship!

The 10 Steps to Conflict Resolution:

1. Set a time and place for discussion.
Time to focus on one another, and the issue at hand, without interruption.

2. Define the problem.
Be as open, honest, and specific as possible.
Don’t bring any hurts, scars, or emotional baggage into the conversation.

3. List the ways you each contribute to the problem.
Keep short accounts, no finger-pointing. Give grace.

4. List past attempts to resolve the issue that were not successful.
Don’t use finger-pointing phrases such as “you always” and “you never.”

5. Brainstorm.
What are some new solutions to try?

6. Discuss and evaluate the possible solutions.
Remember that the goal is to resolve the problem so you both win.

7. Agree on one solution to try.
Be as specific as possible.

8. Agree how you will each work toward the solution.
Stay focused on the issue; don’t go off on tangents.

9. Set up another meeting to review and discuss the progress.
Ask: What worked? What didn’t work? What needs to be changed?

10. Praise your partner for their contribution to the progress.
Encourage, uplift, and support your spouse.

We hope you find these ideas helpful as you strengthen your relationship with your partner!

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*Andy and Katy Gillis are the hosts of the Real Marriage LIVE show Sundays at 9 pm, EST.  Visit their Facebook page to tune in and gain fresh strategies to make your relationship even better!

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Conflict Resolution: learn how you and your spouse tend to deal with conflict.

Every couple experiences conflict, and – let’s face it – every couple has problems!

The question is: How do you tend to view, treat, and communicate with your spouse when you’re tackling tough problems?

And, how does your spouse tend to deal?

Knowing the answers to these questions will help you work as a team when tackling issues, instead of occasional enemies!

Watch as Andy and Katy Gillis take you through an exercise that will help you identify how each of you handles conflict so you can better work together and you both can win:

Of course!) we’ve got an amazing couple worksheet for you, that you can download here: Conflict Resolution Worksheet

We’ve found that every couple has a unique dynamic, and no one is “naturally good” at resolving conflict, because conflict resolution is a skill.

Thankfully, it’s a skill we can all learn and get even better at 🙂

Resolving conflict leads to growth, positive change, and even deeper intimacy in your relationship…and so we’re talking about it on the show this week!

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Couple Stress Inventory: How to Reduce and Eliminate Stress in Your Relationship

Just like any relationship, your partner and you have probably been through your share of stressful situations.

Unmanaged stress has caused tension, anxiety, criticism, and even physical illness…along with many unnecessary arguments.

Left unchecked, stress is a bona-fide joy-stealer!

Taking a stress inventory allows you to “reset” so that you can get everything out on the table (and on paper!) and focus on the issues that you CAN change, and release the ones you cannot.  Working as a team to encourage and support one another as you go through the challenging times.

This will make all of the difference, and change how you view stress because now you’ll have a system for working through stress that eliminates all the unnecessary worry that can literally bog your relationship down.

Watch as we share how to create your Stress Inventory and work through your stressors as a couple on this segment of the Real Marriage LIVE 👇🏼

The Personal Stress Worksheet is still available to all new email subscribers, so feel free to add it to your relationship toolkit by subscribing here: Sign Me Up!

We’ve shared this exercise with every couple we’ve mentored over the years, because stress is a barrier to intimacy, and you know we don’t like those barriers.

We hope you find this system as helpful as we do!

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Assertiveness and Active Listening: How to Ask for What You Want in Your Marriage.

Great communication creates a healthy, happy marriage.

Two communication skills we can become even better, at are:

  1. Assertiveness, and
  2. Active listening.

Assertiveness is asking for what you want and the ability to express your feelings.

Active listening is letting your spouse know that you understand them…not only what they are saying, but how they are feeling.

The couples who get this right enjoy a much happier marriage!

Watch as Andy and Katy Gillis take their couples through the steps to develop and deepen their Assertiveness and Active Listening skills in this marriage enrichment video:

Bottom line is: when each person knows that they can share their request and feelings without fear of judgment or criticism, and that their spouse listens and understands how they feel, intimacy is increased.

Assertiveness and Active Listening skills will help you become a Power Couple! 

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