Your Marriage is Part of God’s Plan

Don’t view your marriage from a worldly point of view; it’s much more than that. See your marriage as an important part of God’s plan for your life.

“I’m not sure of God’s plan for my life,” may be the initial thought, and if that’s true for you, we want to encourage you:

God’s plan for your life is multi-faceted, but we believe it always includes being a good steward of the gifts He’s already given you. So if you are married, part of your calling is to be the best husband or wife you can be for your spouse.


I feel like I’m the only one trying to make our marriage work

“I feel like I’m the only one trying to make our marriage work.”

This is a comment we receive quite often, and the solution is not “one size fits all,” because each marriage is the unique partnership between two people. It’s tough when you feel like your spouse is not “pulling their weight” or even willing to work on your marriage at all.

However, we’ve found that even when there are great challenges in the relationship, the other person usually DOES want to make things better, regardless of whether they say so or act like it.

Most of the time they don’t know how to move forward, or may not feel comfortable talking about the subject with their partner because of the tension it brings (why start a conversation when you think it might end badly?)

No matter how good we are, we can always get better.

How you approach your partner, how you treat them, and the expectations you hold them to all play a part in how they will respond to your request to “work on the marriage” along with you.

Tune into the Real Marriage show this Sunday at 9 pm EST for “Marriage Expectations”

Learn how to become aware, and then release one another, of any unmet expectations that may be keeping you from growing together.

Know a couple who needs to see this? Share it.

“Unmet expectations” can be a huge barrier to intimacy in your marriage.

What is Real Marriage All About?

Jen writes: “Hey Katy. I saw you are doing some marriage thing on Facebook. What’s that all about?”

Jen, thank you for your message – I’m so glad you asked!

My husband, Andy Gillis, and I are absolutely passionate about marriage – and not just our own 😉. Truth is, we’ve dedicated the last 6 years to helping couples build healthy marriages – by facilitating premarital and marriage mentoring programs and leading married community groups at North Point Ministries.

It’s been such an honor to walk with our couples, watching them grow as individuals AND grow together as a solid and happily married team.

When we moved to Florida a few months ago, we had to leave our church and the marriage ministry work behind. But we knew we wanted to continue that work, and through some brainstorming we came up with the idea to host a weekly live show, using the Facebook Live platform available on Facebook Pages.

This opportunity is very exciting for us, because we are now able to connect with, inspire, encourage, and support couples, anywhere they are in the world!

Previously, when we’d share about our marriage programs, we would receive comments like: “Wow! I wish you two lived in my city so my husband/wife and I could go through your program!” or “We’d love to have this available at our church!” Location was a huge barrier.

Excitedly – with the launch of Real Marriage, we have created a way to connect with and serve people all over the world, and THAT is downright awesome!

On our Real Marriage Facebook Live show (Sundays @ 9:00 EST), Andy and I will share the very same ideas and strategies we’ve taken our couples through that has made a significant impact on their lives.

We’ve learned that great marriages don’t just happen; it takes a willingness to show up, be real, know, and be known by each other…and it’s extremely helpful to have a road map to follow and another couple to help show the way. That’s what we’ll be doing on the Real Marriage show.

We’ll discuss key topics such as Communication, Stress, Finances, Spiritual Beliefs, Intimacy, Family, Relationship Roles, Personal Styles and Habits, Sex, Conflict Resolution, Personal Goals, and more. We talk real-life application that anyone can use to create an even healthier relationship with their partner. Investing a small amount of time every week to grow one’s most important relationship is such a gift, and we’re hoping to facilitating great conversations and inspire positive outcomes for everyone who attends our show!

Real Marriage is for dating, engaged, and married couples – or individuals at any stage, really – who wish to build their relationship skills and gather new ideas and strategies to build a healthier bond with their mate (or future mate!).

We’re delighted to host our Real Marriage LIVE show on Sundays at 9pm EST on our Real Marriage Facebook Page!

Thank you for your question and for giving me the opportunity to share the work that we get to do! I hope to see you checking in on the show