The #1 Killer of marriage is poor communication.
Good communication is not something we’re born with, but a skill that can be learned and developed over time, and communicating better in your marriage will help you grow closer as a couple.
Our favorite marriage communication tool: the Sunday Night Meeting!
“The Sunday Night Meeting” is where you set aside time each week to reconnect as a couple. It inspires communication, support, connection, and all of that will deepen intimacy…which is always a good thing!
PS – as shown in the video, we created a handy “Sunday Night Meeting” Agenda that we send every one of our email subscribers, and would love to send to you to use as a guide! Click here to join the Real Marriage email list and you’ll receive the Sunday Night Meeting Agenda in your inbox!
The Story behind the Sunday Night Meeting:
A few years into our marriage, Andy and I (Katy) hired a business coach to help us with one of our businesses. She encouraged us to meet once a week with our team to talk about what’s going on in the business, talk about the week, and outsource and collaborate on various projects to work as a more effective team. It was sure to bring about serious growth and increase productivity (what a great idea!).
That night, while lying in bed about to drift into dreamland, I had an aha-moment inspired by that great business advice:
“Andy!” I said as I nudged his arm with my elbow, “Have you noticed that we’ve been together for 4 years now, and we argue about the same things we argued about from the beginning?” without hesitation he answered “Yes, I’ve been thinking the same thing! We have been investing so much into growing our careers and business, but we haven’t grown our marriage much at all.” Ouch!
Life as a young couple was a bit hectic and fast-paced, so one of the things we decided to begin doing was to meet once a week to reconnect as a couple.
We call it “The Sunday Night Meeting,” and we’ve been doing it ever since.
Not a date – although those are fun, too – but a actual meeting.
Marriage is a partnership…a husband and wife, a team. Just like great teams meet regularly, so could we if we wished to build a great marriage!
So a “Sunday Night Meeting” was added to our schedule, and the appointment kept.
The goal of our Sunday Night Meeting:
For a couple to communicate on two key areas:
- What is going on in our life this week?
- How is our marriage?
We felt the love after our very first meeting, and have been doing them ever since!
I (Katy) felt more connected to Andy as I shared my schedule with him and he offered to help me with some of the items on it (for example, on the day of my doctor’s visit, he cooked dinner.) And I felt like I could support him better (for example, praying for him if he had a big meeting at work.)
Andy feels the same benefits, and ads: “Knowing what’s going on each week has let me see more opportunities to grow our marriage, and I feel more connected to Katy.”
I love it when Andy asks “What would you like me to do to better our marriage this week?” What a gift to have that question asked, and be able to answer it!
Our marriage has grown tremendously over the years of hosting our Sunday Night Meetings, and now in our premarital and marriage ministry work at Real Marriage we encourage every one of our couples to use or create a similar “Marriage Check-In” like the Sunday Night Meeting that will help them communicate and work even better as a team.
We would love to know if you meet with your spouse, and what benefits you’ve received through doing so. Join the conversation on our Facebook Page or post a quick comment below.